I am so thankful that there is an organization out there now that supports people and their families through the nightmare of addiction. No one knows how hard it is to overcome their addiction other than the addict themselves. And sometimes no matter how hard they try they relapse. It is many times that one relapse that is their last.
My son was 24 when he took his last hit. He battled using for years. He had been through counseling, jail and prison from the time he was 15. We tried being supportive and second chances, we tried tough love….way more than once in all of the years. He had gotten out of prison in the spring and had turned 24 in July. He had a beautiful 2-year-old daughter that he adored, had a wonderful girlfriend that supported him in his recovery and held him accountable when he relapsed. He had called me 5 days before he died to tell me that they were expecting again. I was a little less than supportive in that conversation, but he assured me that at least with this child they would both be there to raise the baby and he wouldn’t be in jail. He died 5 days later. That was the last time I talked to him. His oldest daughter is now 7 and his youngest just turned 4.
Along with my older son, all of Tyler’s friends thought he was “Superman” when it came to using drugs. It was a shock to all of us obviously, as it with all family and friends when he OD’ed. All I kept saying was I was afraid it would happen sooner or later and my older son still says he never thought it would. We all know that it does.
My heart breaks every time I hear of another person and family having to go through what we went through. Support is not always free, it is not always there for your family after you’re gone. I have other family members that searched high and low for help but their insurance wouldn’t cover it.
I want to thank Tyler Bettelon and his supporters for establishing Alex’s Saints Foundation. It takes a very strong person with an amazing gift to bring all of the people together that make hope possible for all of you struggling with your demons.
In Loving Memory of my son, Tyler Gregory Bourcier 7/18/92-9/18/16. One of brightest smiles and warmest heart you’ll ever meet.